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comparison is the thief of joy.

November 15, 2021

How often do we find ourselves comparing our lives to others, especially in the age of social media where all we see is the highlight reel of everyone’s lives?


While it can be a motivating tool, more often than not this constant comparison can be toxic and lead to feeling deflated, inadequate and worthless. It can sometimes get hard to not feel like a failure when you’re constantly being forced to see and compare your life and achievements to those around you.


Trust me when I say it happens to all of us - even those who you look at and think “wow, their life is perfect''. But the truth is you never know what someone is dealing with, and everyone is always dealing with something. All we can control is how we respond to it, and work to make it easier on ourselves. 


Here are some ways I have found help to combat these feelings when you get down on yourself:


  1. Don’t let the feeling paralyse you. Instead, try and channel it in a way to help you focus on your own work and be provocative about what you want to achieve.
  2. Be aware of your social media use and set up daily app limits - this will honestly change your life. Plus, it helps you be more present in your own life, allowing you to focus on all you have and be more present with those around you.
  3. Watch your thoughts and be mindful when they start to become negative. Make time to practise self love, compassion and gratitude everyday. It’s your life angel, take the time to love it and yourself.

And at the end of the day, remember that the only person you should really compare yourself to… is you. Just try to do and be better than the day before, and you are on the right track. Trust the timing of your life and your own unique journey and darling angel please never forget: you are unique, you are beautiful, you are so worthy and amazing.



I love you,

Alexz. Xo

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